Hope everyone had a joyous Thanksgiving! I definitely did, lots of food, family, and reflection. Which brings me to the subject of Balance. This subject was sparked by my own indulgences I partook in during this mini break including: food & rest. Let me explain.
1. Food: I LOVE food…let’s just get that out of the way. But I am very health conscious about what I eat and the quality of what I consume. I’d say 90% of the time I stick to a healthy, wholesome, and nutrient-dense diet. I exercise six days out of the week and follow a Pescetarian lifestyle, I definitely place health as a high priority. The other 10% of my diet…oh man. My vices are sweets: ice cream, chocolate, anything crunchy. Rich, creamy, fatty flavors of ice cream are my weakness. During Thanksgiving I really went all out eating what I don’t normally eat, which is a double-edged sword. I told myself that I was going to enjoy myself, but afterwards get back to business as usual. After thousands of calories were happily consumed, I was done eating and started to think. I asked myself the question, “Why I had felt the need to eat so much?” In the past I had tried to go as long as possible without “cheating” on my diet. But with this prolonged deprivation of what I so craved (sweats, etc.) I had only set myself up for a bad cycle of behavior.
2. Rest: I am very disciplined, organized, and determined by nature. That’s just who I am…but also Lazy if I don’t keep myself preoccupied. I can get work done when it needs to be done, but I also fall into procrastination; which I’m sure many of you have experienced before. During my Thanksgiving break I told myself, “I’m going to get work done” but quite the opposite happened. I marathoned through one of my favorite shows The Walking Dead, instead of studying for exams. I rested and got comfy on my couch and read, watched videos, the typical way to “waste” time…but really was it a waste? Essentially I listened to the side of myself within my mind saying “Hey…let’s not do anything productive today”. Which in the short term is gratifying, but long term feels somewhat self-defeating.
So how does this relate to Balance?
What I learned from this holiday is, there is a time for both Yin & Yang (Balance) in life. Certain universal orders can’t be ignored, to do so goes against nature itself. Seeking balance and equilibrium is so so important. But going out of balance every once in a while is to be expected and natural. Finding the right contrast is all we can do with what we have. If one finds themselves going towards the less desirable path, that is a sign. It is life/nature’s way of telling you something, perhaps that change is needed. Some reactions towards this falling into the less desirable path might be to feel bad, shame yourself, and feel guilty. But these judgments won’t make you feel any better. A way to better handle this reaction is to ACCEPT it, NOT judge it. ACKNOWLEDGING you are imperfect as well as human is a way to ground yourself. Being human means to makes choices, decisions that aren’t always picture-perfect. It is NECESSARY to partake in vice every so often (granted it isn’t detrimental to your health, or doesn’t hurt anyone). Stay out late, eat that sleeve of Oreos, buy that expensive purse…whatever it may be, you get the picture. Having periods of discipline, hard work, and focus are essential in life. But periods of rest/relaxation are needed as well. Indulging in life’s pleasures are arguably more important. By setting time aside to partake in vice and time for play, you keep yourself sane. Afterwards you may find yourself even more motivated to get back on track! Keeping your ideal balance between work and play is key, which to me is becoming more apparent everyday. Pace yourself, make time for work yes…but do include time for fun.
Here are some tips for keeping yourself in a state of balance:
1. Give both Work & Play equal weight in terms of priorities, therefore keeping you mentally refreshed and sane.
2. Observe your habits and behaviors. Having a 3rd person, objective lens towards yourself helps to keep you in balance. Decreasing the likelihood of non-desirable behaviors.
3. Visualize the person you’d like to be. Close your eyes and imagine the qualities you would like to exude in your life and focus intently on them.
Please share any helpful tips you may have to maintain balance. Also, tell me some of your vices!